gOSH, I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS POST FOR A WHILE NOW… DURING THE HARDEST TIME I FELt I GET TO LEARN A BIT IN THE PROCESS of the misfortunes of life.
LOSING FEELS LIKE S***
Sure, that feeling ALWAYS hurts. And it is something that usually happens without our knowledge and expectations. We grew up told how great we were and how we would make it through life.
But what if we don’t? What if our way gets complicated and out of the ordinary? What can we do?
The time that I lost the ideal image of my happiness was the time that I was utterly shocked by that reality. My life was changing -heads up, it was changing fast. My expectations were no longer the leaders of my path, and the steps that I must take were ahead of me, and I was not allowed to stop. But again, how can we?
LEAVE THE PAST
We usually hear, “don’t live in the past…” and that’s completely understandable, but is that the only thing we should listen to so repeatedly? I bet it’s not because the future can be scariest, as the past is hunting us on the back of our skins.
During the most challenging time of my life, I learned a few things that helped me understand my new path by accepting life changes as further steps and not new beginnings.
Yeah, you read that right. Embracing my new self was combined with accepting that I was facing something I did not choose, or maybe I did, but my heart was not there ultimately, but you were doing just the right thing. Even though that meant changing my whole life perspective then, I knew I could not follow that idea anymore, so I started to let go, allowing myself to be reconstructed.
I let go of my plans, let go of the belief that I’ll make it work, which wasn’t true at all and started choosing myself and that path that would hopefully lead me to a great new future.
STOP BEING SO AFRAID ABOUT THE FUTURE
Creating a future, it’s a choice that every single human takes daily, and it makes it a habit to succeed in the process they already believe to be. Otherwise, that would be an idea and nothing more.
I asked my AV Friend and Partner Alyah about the subject, and she genuinely answered me back,
“Yeah, I used to be afraid of the future of becoming someone who I didn’t like at all since I was a kid.”
“But not anymore because I learned only the person who’s fully responsible for what happens in the future, it’s me. Gratefully, the better I get to know myself, the better I trust its outcome.”
And that’s the answer I was looking for, we are responsible, and the tools we have to get into it is by knowing ourselves well and way better, putting aside the failure, the expectations, overcoming a great chance to enjoy ourselves in the process of being thankfully your very own self walking through the desert, fighting your -own- giant.
See, tribulations may have come, and problems might be those rocks in the way we encounter, but it is the refreshment of knowing we are here. Now, in the present time, working hard to get the best experience of the life we have chosen to live by embracing who we are more than who I wish I could be.
PRESENT MOMENT 101 AV TIPS
- Throw away everything emotional that brings you back. Free yourself from the associated emotions.
- Appreciate small new moments.
- Be optimistic.
- Forgive and release.
- Stop dwelling on your past accomplishments.
- Have bigger and beyond thoughts in the present situations.
- Be happy.